What Do You Do When the Person Who Offended You Will Not Apologize?
December 20th, 2006 (Forgive)
The following are four sensible, healthy reasons why you may decide to accept, forgive, and reconcile with the person whom has offended you, even though he or she refuses to make amends:
1. You have to interact with this person regularly and find that it takes too much energy to remain cold and distant.
2. When you act cold toward them, you feel cold inside, alienated both from him and from yourself. The rupture between you compromises the quality of your life. Having no relationship with this person feels worse than having some, no matter how limited or superficial.
3. You benefit strategically from an ongoing relationship. For example, you choose to get along with your boss to protect your job, even though you may not respect him.
4. You hope to have new, corrective experiences that might repair the relationship.