What to Do If You Are Married to a Flirt
How do you tame your partner who has a roving eye? Just because it is ok to flirt and plenty of men and women do it does not make it right. A partner’s “innocent and harmless” flirtations can make the other person feel anxious, uncomfortable, and emotionally unsafe. Below are 3 suggestions on how to deal with a flirting partner.
1. Before you start to feel offended and hurt, give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he/she truly does not understand how humiliating his/her actions are. Before you start getting angry or resentful, explain to your partner how his/her behavior hurts you deeply. Once your partner hears you speak calmly and without hostility, he/she may listen more on what you have to say and act with more sensitivity.
2. You need to consider how your anger affects your partner’s behavior. Even if you are justifiably outraged, could your hostility be provoking your partner to prove that he/she is not under your control? What shortcomings do you have that might be contributing to the situation? Are you too smothering, too critical, or demand too much of your partner?
3. If your partner is still having trouble relating to your feelings, attempt to put him in your shoes using the same situation and ask him if he would react in the same way. You have to express your feelings clearly.