Need More Intimacy in Your Love Life?
December 30th, 2005 (Loving Relationships)
Does your husband, wife, or partner feel that you are not providing enough intimacy time? Or rather, do you feel that the fault for lack of intimacy is caused by them? There is a high probability that no one person is to blame.
In today’s world we are all so busy that the combined schedules of work and family have taken away the time for intimacy. So before you blame your partner for this problem, you must first take a look at your schedules and learn to implement time management, yes even for more frequent lovemaking.
I realize that the idea of “scheduling” in intimacy seems so formal, but there is nothing wrong with this practice and your love-life will improve as a result. So it cannot be that bad for you right?
Below are some tips to help you combine time management and your intimacy needs together to create a happy medium for you and your partner.
1. Use an appointment book to create sacred time for the two of you to be together. A good example would be to set aside one night each week as a “date” night. On this evening you will make arrangements to have everything out of the way accept for time with your special someone. And treat this scheduled time just like you would treat an important business meeting or job interview. Be excited, be on time, give it your all, and make it meaningful.
2. Another tactic would be to schedule your entire week around your chosen intimacy times, and not the other way around. In other words if you and your wife, husband, or partner decide that you want to have lovemaking times three times per week then your work, family, and social life would be created around those three times.
3. Last but certainly not least, another great way to free up your time to enable you to spend more intimacy with your special other is to stop spending time with time-wasters. Social and family obligations, while it is respectful to attend them, can be a real time waster as well as a drag to go to if you are doing it out of expectations from from your family and friends.
If you catch yourself attending these family and social obligations week after week, while personal time with your loving partner is suffering, then it is time to put a temporary stop to those obligations and take back your time. This is so that you are your wife, husband, or partner can be more intimate with each other instead of giving your time to other people.