Self Help

Becoming successful by obtaining a goal can obviously be a positive experience. You can also block your own success with feelings of being overwhelmed once you get close to the goal. If you allow yourself to become dominated by these unproductive feelings, your state of mind affects your actions. Allowing your feelings to affect you in this counterproductive way stifles your ability to become successful. When success does occur, you’re not able to accept the feelings of joy and power associated with your accomplishments. Denying feelings of accomplishment and success will result in producing highly ineffective and self-sabotaging behaviors. The behaviors are self-sabotaging because you’re responding opposite to what is required to reach your goals.

Fear of success occurs because negative self-talk and negative messages from others still dominate your beliefs and attitude. What is your chance of success or advancement if you allow others to affect your thoughts and behavior? Realize that your effort in eliminating negative self-talk and negative beliefs from others is aimed at improving your self-confidence. Developing your inner resources, your self-esteem and self-respect, will motivate you to accept feelings of success on a continual basis.

Bravely overcoming discouraging feelings about yourself by eliminating self-defeating words from your vocabulary is one way to overcome fear of success. Another way is to disregard self-defeating statements from others. Success is achieved by continually expressing positive self-talk directed toward developing your enthusiasm, self-esteem, and vitality. “I can do it,” “Great job,” “Well done,” and “Right on,” are expressions of your vitality, influencing the course of your life. Your self-esteem and vitality will help you overcome any barrier and self-defeating attitude.

Changing your way of thinking about success activates your courage to solve problems and achieve goals. Instead of letting your problems get the better of you, take control and energize your courage by saying, “I am determined to reach my goals,” and “My self- confidence and self-respect are so strong that I will move forward in life.” These courageous affirmations will enable you to master and take control of your emotional, mental, and physical qualities to create passion in your life.

Your commitment to eliminate fear of success, and change your thoughts and actions, is a personal choice. Although internal, negative self-talk and discouraging words from others seem to surround you, focus your thoughts and actions in positive, productive ways.

When you experience rough times, discouraging words from others or negative self-talk, don’t let yourself get down. If others try to instill fear in you by making you think you can’t accomplish what you set out to do, face the challenge and keep moving forward. Believe in yourself and use encouraging self-talk to help you become enthusiastic about changing your behavior and attitude.