Self Help

Possibly the trickiest part of getting what you want in life is just figuring out what you really want! And yet it is certainly the most important part of all. Remember that setting goals does not mean that you are stuck with those goals. You can change them as often as you want to and feel that it’s necessary.

Remember also that setting goals does not mean that you have to pursue them through effort, striving, or struggling. It does not mean that you have to become emotionally addicted to achieving them. On the contrary, setting goals can help you flow through life more easily, effortlessly, and pleasurably. The nature of life is movement and creativity, and goals give you a clear focus and direction in which to channel your natural creative energy, thereby helping you to outflow and contribute to the world, which enhances your feeling of well-being and satisfaction in life. Goals are there to help you and support you in your true purpose.

Goals can be made in the spirit that life is an enjoyable game to be played, and one that can be deeply rewarding. They are not to be taken too heavily or seriously. At the same time, you must give them enough weight and importance so they are of real value to you.

It’s great to write your goals in the form of affirmations, as if they have already been achieved. This helps to achieve a clearer, stronger effect. In writing your goals, be sure to put down things that are real and meaningful to you, things that you actually want, not what you think you should want. No one else need ever see your goals unless you want him or her to, and this process requires that you be totally honest with yourself.

You may find that the very process of choosing goals brings up a certain amount of emotional resistance in you. You might experience this in various different ways, such as feeling depressed, hopeless, or overwhelmed at the thought of trying to set goals. Or you might feel the desire to distract yourself by eating, sleeping, or other activities. These emotional reactions (if you should have them) are clues to the ways in which you avoid getting what you want in life. It’s important to go ahead and experience these feelings and reactions, to go through them, and proceed with the process. Once you get into it you will find it of value. Then again, you may thoroughly enjoy the whole process and find it very expansive, fun, and enlightening. And you should! Just don’t make the choosing of goals too complicated.