A Woman’s Shattered Self-Esteem
July 12th, 2006 (Divorce)
There are worse things than being separated. Truly, there are. My best friend had a time in her life where I saw her go through a divorce. I saw a scared young woman with battle scars, hardly able to support herself, let alone two children with special physical, emotional, and learning needs.
For women who have endured years of verbal abuse, and for those who have been stunned with the shocking news of their husband’s secret love affairs, or other illicit behavior, mending the self-esteem is a first step to solid ground. Some women have flat out been told they weren’t attractive or desirable.
No one is responsible for another person’s behavior, choices, or decisions. We are responsible for our own lives. Too often, women feel the burden of making relationships work. When they fall apart, they are the first to accept the blame. This notion must end.
The message here is to stop clinging to your marriage and to goals, hopes, and dreams you set as a couple. Especially if one partner wants out of the marriage or refuses to correct patterns that have become major roadblocks.