Self Help

Rejection occurs when someone says, “no” to your idea, request, or action. Some people need the approval of other people. They are vulnerable when told “no.” But the assertive person accepts “no” as a denial in a specific situation and doesn’t think that he is being rejected as a person.

Communication is the expression of another’s perception. “No” is not a rejection of you. It is the rejection of an idea. Don’t take it personally. This only complicates your ability to communicate and decreases your effectiveness and understanding of the situation.

Though there are some dishonest manipulators who say, “no” and mean it as a direct rejection of you, most people want the same things from communication as you do. No one likes to be talked down to. Nobody likes rejection. But honest and straightforward clarification of criticism or rejection helps you to resolve the conflict. Concentrate on remaining objective and not giving in to your emotions.

Conflict caused by criticism and rejection can be resolved by clarifying the situation with yourself and the other involved. Don’t store up bad feelings of rejection and anger only to have them resurface at a later time. Clear the air. Express your feelings. Accept the feelings and information of the other person. Then move on.